A Guide on Rejection: The Do’s and Don’ts

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A Guide on Rejection: The Do’s and Don’ts

Photo Illustration by Jennifer Espana

Photo Illustration by Jennifer Espana

Photo Illustration by Jennifer Espana

Photo Illustration by Jennifer Espana

The act of having to reject someone or being rejected is something almost everyone will go through in their life, despite this most of us don’t know how to properly deal with either. Emotions and rash decisions could potentially lead to some awkward situations that could ruin a friendship. Here are some tips on how to reject someone and how to deal with rejection.

The first thing to do when planning out a rejection is to make it absolutely clear that you’re rejecting them. Don’t dance around the issue. If you don’t like them romantically, let it be known. You need to make this rejection crystal clear, don’t lead them on, that’s going to make you look like a fool.

Your rejection should be polite yet to the point. Your main goal is to make sure that if they leave crying it’s not because of your words.

All right now you need to make the setting right, given the age of digital media the dating realm has changed. If it’s someone you’ve met online there’s more wiggle room to reject them in a multitude of ways. However the message should still be clear and polite at the end of it all.

If you know this person in real life and they’re a close friends with you the rejection needs to be personal, especially if they live close to you. If you want to maintain the friendship it’s usually polite to do it in person.

It’s definitely going to be difficult, but it’ll seem like a bad move if you did it over text when you could have done it face to face.

The first thing to remember about rejection is that it happens to everyone, regardless of how charming or good looking people find you there’s a high chance it’s gonna happen. There’s no controlling when it’s gonna happen, all we can do is control how we react. So how should you react?

Well the first thing you do is accept the rejection, this part may seem like the easiest but for some it’s not. Most people do not want to be asked out on a date more than once by someone they already rejected. In conclusion don’t ask them out more than once.

There’s no need to try and wear them down in order to get a different answer. Kudos to you for not giving up but it’s time you face the music and realize you can’t change their answers. If they want to change their answer they’ll come to you.

The next thing to do is to treat them kindly and respectfully they may have rejected you, but that doesn’t mean they magically turned into a new person. They’re still the same person you thought would’ve been a great partner.

It’s just now you know they don’t have an attraction towards you. Avoid treating them like dirt, treat them the same way you’ve always treated them. We won’t sugarcoat things, it’s gonna be tough to see them around knowing what happened.

The next thing to do is to allow yourself to feel bad, you just got rejected and nobody is immune to those sort of feelings. Definitely don’t take out those feelings out on the rejector, you’re better than that. Don’t allow yourself to bottle up those feelings, release them in a manner that will help.

The last thing to do is recognize that things will continue on. Who knows perhaps you’ll end up with the person you originally asked out, perhaps not but there’s always an opportunity to meet someone new. Regardless of what happens with time comes change, and it will get better.

Is there a way to let someone down easily without minimal damage? Absolutely. The best thing to do this is to be completely honest with the individual and express your feelings on the situation in a calm way.

Don’t prolong the talk, the longer its prolonged the worse it’ll be for the person who is receiving the message.

Honesty is certainly the best policy, someone once told us it’s best to break up with someone on a Wednesday. This is done to ensure you won’t ruin their week, not entirely sure if it works as we have a different interpretation on the matter. Don’t feel bad if you have to reject someone, you’ve done nothing wrong but be honest with them.

Let them down easy, try to talk in a setting that’s calm and empty. Be assertive. We all go through it in our lives, it’s how we overcome things that makes us victorious.

Heartbreak is inevitable, it’s good to always remember that through this experience that you’ll always have someone who loves you. Yourself.

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