So you’ve been getting pretty close with someone; Text messages are starting to get more intimate, more time is being spent with that person, it’s even harder to get this person off your mind now.

Then all of a sudden that person starts to give off subtle signs that you may not be the only one they’re entertaining. What do you do? Well, for starters, you need to do some self reflecting, make sure you understand that it’s not you, it’s them. Any person would be lucky to have you, but not everyone may be looking for the same commitment you are.

The second thing you have to think about is: “Did I make it absolutely clear that I wanted to make the relationship exclusive?” Never assume a person is on the same page as you, everyone has their own perspective on how something is happening. So until you speak to that person and understand where they are coming from, you may never know if the two of you are on the same wave.

Alright, so you may be saying “Yes Vee, I’ve told this person exactly how I feel and we’ve agreed to become a couple.” Alright I hear you, to that I’d say: there are seven billion people on this earth. Do you honestly believe you only had qualities to attract that one person? No! So go out and do all the things you weren’t doing because you were tied up!

Enjoy some time alone or even with friends and family, make new memories so you can get over the old ones. Start hanging out in places that the people you want to attract might be hanging out at, open your mind to new ideas and different types of people. You might be surprised at some of the amazing people you overlooked before.

In the next situation you find yourself in, take your time getting to know someone, make sure their actions are matching their words. And remember, never make someone a priority when you’re only an option.

Your Friend, Vee

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