That’s the signpost up ahead – your next stop, the Friend Zone!

Alejandro Simental, Opinion Editor

“You are about to enter another dimension, not only of sight and sound but of mind, a journey into a land of both shadow and substance. You’ve just crossed over into the Friend Zone.”

Sometimes a guy tries too hard to try to impress a girl; sometimes it isn’t enough. Kindness can be mistaken for interest in a woman when it is purely meant to be chivalrous.

Girls are hard to read, they give off signs that may or may not mean to give you the ok to “hit” on her. The simple idea of being a nice guy can immediately cause someone to get stuck in the friend zone. The “nice guy” is someone who obviously wants to engage in romantic behavior with someone but doesn’t want to pressure or ruin the friendship, but what a girl sees in this behavior they see a guy holding back on his own feelings making it seem that the male has a low self-esteem.

Obviously, guys can try too hard making it seem like you’re desperate which is a giant negative when it comes to the start of a relationship. Guys, STOP BEING NEEDY women want an independent guy who isn’t looking for someone who is looking for another half but rather a guy who is complete and confident.

There are always more fish in the sea if she says no. Just relax and be yourself; there is no need to pretend to be someone else. Perhaps its just not meant to be and you two should just be friends and nothing more. In order to be with someone, you’re going to have to touch them eventually whether it’s for holding hands, kissing, or intimate reasons. The touching needs to initiate as soon as possible so she knows your intentions and you both familiarize yourselves with the “ I want to be more than friends” kind of touch.

If you don’t make your move, someone else will. You can’t be shy with women who you find attractive, there’s always a high chance that there is someone else who also might be interested. Most men find the same women attractive and at least one of them will make a move.

Men aren’t the only ones who get thrown into the friend zone. It can also happen to women, especially when it’s the type of guy who just wants someone to “fool around with”. In an online article on Askmen.com, I read about a young guy in his 20’s always putting women into the friend zone— who he claims were great, cool and sexy but he was simply not ready to begin a serious relationship and he didn’t think of any of them as “the one”. It’s a slightly different process when it comes to men putting women into that zone. When we do it we get called jerks…

—And they have a right to call us that! Most women will actually not lead you on after the fact of putting a guy in the friend zone.Sometimes the types aren’t compatible and it’s hard to move on from one fish to another. Face the fact that she isn’t interested in you and just move on.

 

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